After pursuing my issues with my trans further I brought my nitro to another dealer. this new dealer was very helpful and called in Chrysler engineers to trouble shoot the issues. I should state that they called me back in after about a week with a new update that should of fixed the problem. Well I already had that one performed and it did nothing. So after extensive test driving and taking recordings from the computer. the solution that they came up with was to reroute the exhaust due to improper routing at the factory, loosen all motor and trans mounts including the cross member that supports the trans, let everything settle and then re torque to factory specs. this was all done due to a possible issue with the original assembly and improper placement of the engine.(supposedly there was an issue with how the engine was fitting into the engine bay so the used pry-bar's to get the engine to fit properly) I picked up the car today and the issues are still present although noticeably reduced. I hope this can help some of the other owners experiencing similar problems.